Your w could also be checking the house out to see if someone has been spending time there. If you are making changes, such as becoming a neater person, those changes will need to become permanent. They do tend to walk around and check things out and we somethings make a joke about that here as "marking their territory".
Continue doing what you've been doing and be sure you take care of yourself in the process.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
