She states that he is not the reason for our problems, just a symptom of them.

She says she has pleaded with me for the past two years to work on our marriage, yet I am only really hearing this NOW!

I have already admitted my failings in that regard but I also asked her why she wouldn't just come out and say what her issues were?

I dont think Im in any position to demand anything at the moment as she is adamant we are over?