Me: I know you've had a lot going on and this was just kind of sprung on you. I don't want to keep stressing you our and making you feel like crap or that I'm trying to control you. Use the SUV however you need today.
Her: Ok thank you very much it means a lot to me
Me: I'm going to rent a couple of movies from redbox, if you want to join me you're welcome to.
Her: Ok
So, MrBond, I know you've said that I shouldn't and MMSL would say the same thing, that the alpha move would be to take my car and head out for the day and DB says I should go GAL on my own.
Here's the thing, up until I said this last part I was feeling like an [censored] and had a pit in my stomach for what I was doing. So, no mindreading? No snooping? If my friend hadn't been feeding me info about my GF bad-mouthing me how would I react? I would be mindful that she is depressed, stressed, hurt from what's happened in our R, and unsure of me. If I'm the "old me" I would be doing everything I could to alleviate stress, to help her feel better, to be the guy she comes to and vent rather then the person she is venting about.
The way I seee it, a 180 is me being the "old me" and maintaing the alpha is that I say this is what I'm doing and if you want to join me fine but it won't hurt my feelings if you don't. Since it is really cold and I have to bundle up on the bike I'm going to grab some movies that I can chill out and enjoy, just relax for the day. If she shows up and joins me then fine, if not I'm just going to make the best of my day and not worry about where she is or what she's doing.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
