Thanks Snodderly. I don't think she's using the dog as an excuse to come over - in fact its probably the opposite. I mentioned last week that I'd meet her half way (she moved 45 minutes away) to save her having to drive all the way here twice a week after she complained about being hectic with all our appointments. She declined and said she wanted to come to the house because of the dog.
I never responded to her request to take the dog for the weekend and strangely she never mentioned it when here at the house for two hours last night. So I guess she took my lack of reply as "no". She'd posted a picture of the dog on FB that was clearly taken by the OM so after that sting I'm inclined never to let her take the dog again.
I did change the lock on the front door, but she came in the back so that never came up. She didn't seem to notice or care about the boxes in the hallway. She did, however, manage to go upstairs and check out a bathroom that I am renovating (said it "looks nice"). She seems to do this when she comes to the house - I've never been a neat freak which bothered her and one of my 180's is to keep the house spotless (and got rid of a lot of "stuff"). She seems to be checking to see what I've done in the house and if it is still neat... She also will leave a dish or napkin or clump of dog hair after she pets the dog when she visits - almost feels like a test to see if I will clean it up before she comes back.
Last night was strangely normal. No relationship talk. Plenty of cordial conversation and laughing. And then she left. It feels so strange because all of the issues that are facing our relationship are boiling right below the surface but we just talk about nothing instead. Seriously an elephant in the room... I think there is a whole herd at this point.
My plan is to go extremely dim until we meet next week... I have plenty to do on the house. _____________________________ Me:39 WAW:38, M:9 T:19, No Kids EA:9/24, S:9/24 EA on hold, MC 9/30-now
