There'll be no white flag above my door-not yet La

[labug]

Not exactly what I was gonna say.....

Defensive much ?

: )

Maybe a little. This was hard for me and I knew I would get a variety of reactions but I posted it just for that reason. I want to hear from every corner. That's what pushes me to grow in new directions.

You did what you had to do, and you said what you needed to say...

Right ?

Yes.

Were you authentic to yourself ?

Good question and I'm thinking through what I said.

Yes, I was authentic and I went a bit off the DB reservation in doing that. But I needed to say some things from me, from my heart.

I spoke my truth without anger.

And if he was paying attention he saw a ME that he's never seen before.

Did you cross any personal boundaries by saying what you did ?

There was no blaming or shaming, no name calling (we NEVER did that anyway). I found myself stopping a few times when I was thinking "Yeah, I may have done x but you did y!" I didn't say it.

I didn't bring the sons into it.

I didn't touch him.

It was a very different conversation than we've had in the past because I didn't cry.

Did you try to change his decision in any way for selfish reasons ?

Probably.

Where you trying to wake him up in any way ?

No, because as I said I've known since March 15th 2011 exactly where this would end up, just didn't know it would take this long. And, the fat lady hasn't sung yet.

Or did you merely just say some things that just had to be said....

Sometimes, after having zero talks in a long time, things have to be said.

Take it easy on yourself, your emotions can run high right after these kinds of encounters.

That's what I tried to do but I know I said too much, stayed too long. He was uncomfortable.

Apply the 48 hour rule for yourself and take the time to process your thoughts.

No wood applied here, just making sure your perspective was tuned up

Thanks, Mach I appreciate you looking over my shoulder.