# 2 was his lying, mostly over tiny things but a lie is a lie and it slowly killed my trust. How do you handle that? I guess not marrying a compulsive lier?
Tough one. How did you handle it? By constantly trying to catch him in a lie? By asking "smart" questions he really sees through even though he might not say it?
I have a close friend who dated a compulsive liar. He got hurt, had a lot of resentment and tried changing her by catching her in her lies and constantly telling her how wrong and damaging her lying was. It only made it worse, A LOT.
Every time he caught a lie he would get more upset and she would get more defensive(by lying more).
I also had a close friend who turned out to be a compulsive liar. I cut him off completely. It's not that easy with someone you love.
I don't know what works, but have a certain idea of what does not. Hoping someone else has some good advice about dealing with lying?
Originally Posted By: Soul.Searching
A: him posting comments on work colleague Facebook that I found inappropriate EG on a half naked pic he wrote " Wow, that hot I need to see more pics of that night." I don't find that appropriate. Is that something that would concern you?
I'm not an overly jealous guy, but yes, that would concern me. It's just inappropriate and sends out the wrong signals.
Originally Posted By: Soul.Searching
D: I did get frustrated when he used to drop everything to go out with a friend if they called. I guess I could have let that slide but I feel if we have planned to spend the day together, he should not just drop me and the kids because a mate wants him to go fishing.
I've done the same thing. I felt I was around X every day, but not my mates. So if the opportunity arised I would sometimes leave at short notice. I guess I knew it was not the right thing to do, but I didn't want to always say no.
Maybe instead of "nagging" you could've suggested a better way to do it. He should have planned with his mates in advance so you could get a notice. He probably did the same as me, not planning but just jumping when an opportunity arised. If the friends see him coming on short notice, will they bother to plan in advance?
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
