seeking, They think of their former lives more than we think they do, especially around the holidays. For example, my xh thought I still did the "Black Friday" sales in the stores. I told him two years ago that I haven't done that in years...it's now the internet age and that's where I shop.
Even though they don't always say it, they do remember.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.