Thank you so much, Tumbling, MKB and Tori, for dropping by.
I'm getting more into the spirit of the party, Tumbling. I really like your ideas.
As for when I go away, MKB, the house goes to pot in my eyes, but it's all gone very well as far as H is concerned. I'd have to be away for longer than I would want to be for H to realise that things weren't running smoothly. I know from one of S13's carers that things are very different when I'm not here. I'm usually horrified when I get back and can't believe they are happy living the way they do (blinds down in the daytime, takeaway food, unflushed toilets, bath with cold water in it, unmade beds...) They claim it's a bit of a holiday from the 'regimented life' they lead when I'm around! As for as I'm concerned, the house looks like a squatters' house when I get back.
Tori, that's a really good point about how I become house manager/caretaker, instead of W. I do feel that that house manager one of my main roles. I don't want to stop since the house would not run the way that suits me but I can do it without drawing attention to it. I've realised that I do it for myself anyway. Apart from D15, the others could live for a long time in a very messy/dirty house.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012