Bug, you are such a strong woman. Your head and heart are in the right places. I am sorry this is happening to you. Even though he's been gone all this time, it still hurts.
I agree with what jks says. Your H thinks he's doing you a favor but really, if he wants to move on he should just move on. And then you will be able to as well, in time.
big hugs.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page