Or am I the only one who thinks this is crazy-making?
No, Labug, not at all. You have been the absolute strongest woman you could be throughout this entire ordeal. And what was he? A coward! He didn't want to hurt your feelings?? So he stayed M to you and didn't say a word to you about how he was feeling only to AVOID... for 18 months!! I relate to this so much because I can hear my H saying the exact same words. And I was left in the dark on so many occasions as well... for so many years. It isn't fair and it isn't healthy. So now you realize that and know what you want in a future R. I'm guessing someone who isn't afraid to voice what they're truly feeling? Someone who can be open with you and enjoys being around you?
You are amazing, Labug. I seriously can feel myself being where you are. I know the feelings you're going through. The thought of having to figure out who gets what... when all you want to think about is... how is this happening? And does it really need to happen?
I know you'll get through this in due time and we'll all be here to help you through. ((((Labug)))
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
