Having a really bad day and hope is dwindling quickly. H snuck in while I was at work today and moved more of his stuff out, about half of it is gone now. Sent me a text after saying he will be totally out by the end of the month. This just happened after we had two pleasant conversations by phone and several texts lately about business matters and the hurricane (he was in Atlantic City when it hit). I was just beginning to have serious hope that I might have a chance, now this slap in the face.
What really hurts is the way he is doing this, slowly and painfully over the last month. It is like he is trying to make this process as hard as possible. I have been so nice and accommodating, trying to always sound positive and flexible about everything. I haven't let him in on my feelings that he is being cold and hurtful by his methods of moving.
I am considering a difficult 180. I feel like this is torture and if he wants out I just need him to do it already so I can move on and mend my heart. I don't want any of his furniture and I don't think he plans on taking anything other than his clothes. I am considering telling him that if he is "completely moving out" as he said, then I expect he will take all of his furniture as well because I do not want it. Also, that I need him to finish the job because I need to move on. Of course I still want him back and do not want a divorce, but this is awful. Anyone have success with this type of 180, seems risky but maybe he needs to get a jolt of reality.
M: 38yo, H: 44yo Together:10yrs Married: 6yrs No kids BD 8/15/12 H walked-out 8/18/12
