Thanks Denver. This is all so frustrating! I am trying to have patience but it is hard when it is SO easily fixable and all of the supposed "issues" my W had are based on misunderstood situations.
I think it is important that you try and view this from your w's perspective. For me doing that was important in really finding forgiveness for her. I believe it is also what jump started the detachment process. It also helped in understanding that this is something she believes she needs to do. So I need to let her without any pressure.
The issues are supposed to you. And the situations are misunderstood to you. Apparently she sees them clearly enough to leave. All those misunderstandings are in the past. The only thing you have now are present situations. Work on those. Use the past for reference and put it away. You can lose yourself in the past if you dwell on it.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
