Piecing - Round 1

[Denver_2010]

Quick Update

Restraining order brought up for the first time.

OM sent W, W's boss, and two other people who she plays with in the company, an email about the same stuff. P!ssed off about being taken off all of the gigs that my W is on (which is about 80% of the company's gigs). He was obviously trying to intimidate W's boss and put him, and my W, in a bad spot by ccing the email to other people.

W did not respond. Not sure whether her boss or any of the others did.

I don't say much when W tells me about these things. I listen intently and that is about it.

W told me that she now feels harassed. That her first reaction to this latest email was to respond and say "take me off of this email chain and do not contact me or my family again." But she decided not to because she still feels that any response will only inflame the situation.

W asked me what I thought so I told her (editing out a few thoughts though).

I told her that OM needs to be out of our lives. That I don't blame her for what is happening now. I am not mad at her, but I am becoming increasingly angry with OM. I told her that it seems that he is trying to intimidate her boss and put him and W in an uncomfortable situation.

I told her that it is taking everything that I have to not become directly involved by contacting OM myself.

She said that she knows that, but that she doesn't think that it is necessary 'yet'.

I told her that at some point we may need to think about a restraining order. She again asked me if I thought that she should respond to the email and say "do not contact me or my family again". I told her not this time. Let's see how her boss responds.

She reiterated that no matter what she isn't going to resume doing shows with OM. That if it comes down to it, she will leave the company. That her boss will have to decide who is more important to the company. It is W by far, so that is not an issue.

During the conversation, W used words like "obsessive", "crazy" and "stalking" to describe OM.

Better late than never to get it I suppose.