I Cheated. She's Pissed!

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I'm sorry but I disagree, You need to work on you. There is no good reason ever to cheat but you need to look at the "excuses" you created in your mind to justify cheating.
If you don't look at the things that contributed to you cheating in the past, then I don't think you will be able to not do it again.
You can't just push things under the rug and think that they won't creep back out.

I am completely with SS on this. We are all for a solution-based approach. We come here trying to look at our M and ourselves and we constantly ask WHY did we get here, how did our behavior contribute to the demise of our R. We constantly say we need to look within ourselves for our faults and try to become better people. If we don't ask WHY we do the things we do, how will we get there?

In my opinion just saying "I won't cheat again" is the shortest road to further cheating and by his own admission Focusing / Jeffodie is a repeat offender as well. Obviously something is going on with HIM that is making him cheat. He needs to understand what he is looking for, what emotional need he is trying to fulfill by doing so or what is he trying to escape from so he can fix the root problems within himself. Otherwise, it will happen again.