That is married to me. Common-inlaw marriage to say the least.
Yep, I felt the same way. That's why I posted here even though we are not.
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
If that is that. Then I would only pay money to support the child. No more.
She says she want half of what she is intiteled to. No more. Just enough for S. She wants to make it work herself, and not take from me without needing it.
Even when we were together she would very seldom ask for money if she had little herself. Often I didn't really notice what we were missing, so she bought herself. I see that more clearly now.
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
I would find out for a lawyer what my rights are here and what I need to do on the financial support.
I've read up on this quite alot, but will continue to find out more. We have a meeting scheduled were we will get help making some official papers on how arrangements should be.
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
Then do no more.
You mean like no contact? We have 1 day a week where we take S for a class together. I've realized though, that I need to work on my detachment. It's not nearly where I thought it was. (surprise huh? )
Get a contract in place for the child support and co-parenting plan.
If she does not want much. Then get it in writing and signed. Get it binding.
That way you know for the next 18 years when you will have your son. You will know how much you have to pay in support.
You can plan your life around this.
This is very important.
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