Well, I can certainly understand how you feel. If she has her own place, I wouldn't allow her to have free access to your home. She would need to learn that your have boundaries in place and that includes calling ahead or knocking on the door before entering your home.
Could it be that she is using the dog as an excuse to come over? Some of them will do that.
I'm sure she's happy as a pig in sh@t living in a crappy apartment. Why? Because she can do whatever she wants, when she wants and possibly just goes there to crash at night. I have a feeling she does not spend much time there.
Keep up the good work. So you made a few mistakes...we all do from time to time...just learn from them and continue moving forward.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
