if you want your R fixed, then do not go out with another man. My ex did this, while at the same time dating me. This has caused harm that I think may be unrepairable. Now because my ex would not commit to a mongamous R with me, and left me wondering, why am I staying home doing nothing but being miserable, I have found someone. Now ex knows about this and she is angry and resntful toward me. I guess I'm saying don't go out with man, no matter how innocent it may be, it may put the wrong ideas in your H's head.