Tomorrow is H's birthday and I assume correct way to go about it is to NOT wish him happy birthday, correct?
The general consensus is not to make a big deal out of it, but it's OK to call or text to tell him HBD. No cards or gifts though.
Originally Posted By: Grateful
I have a piggybank question to this as well. Next week is our wedding anniversary. Do I send a card, call, etc?
This is different than bdays, because what do you do about an anniversary for a dead marriage? A lot of people say to do nothing. Don't call, text, give a card or give a gift. That was what I planned on doing, but I wasn't so sure it was the right thing to do, so the day before the anniversary (our 20th) I saw W when she was picking up the kids and asked her what she thought. She said "I don't know, it's all so weird right now." So I suggested we go to dinner, not as a celebration, but more of just an acknowledgement of the date. So that's what we did. I did end up giving her a flower arrangement in a pumpkin, very cute and I told her just to consider it a house gift rather than for the anniversary. Personally this all worked for me, it was done in a way that didn't apply any pressure, and we both enjoyed it.
