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How should I try to handle him? Should I go out of my way to avoid him or should I act as if and go about doing my normal stuff?

The short answer, he has removed himself from the role of H, he is still the father of your children. My advice: Don't contact him unless it's an emergency about your children.

How can I verbalize my boundary of not fighting? Do I just say that like I did before? I am not fighting or arguing with you? It worked well but really enraged him.

I'm not sure you need to verbalize it again if you already have. Just don't engage with him. When/if he starts say in an even tone, Your yelling (whatever it is he does)at me is unacceptable. If it continues I will walk away.

Anyone got tips for helping me keep my cool when all I want to do is scratch his eyes out and beat him with a pan? Throw shoes at him. Hit with a broom, Throw rocks. Hurl insults. In a nutshell, hurt him back. You get the idea. Make him bleed. Why am I like that? It feels so primal and inhumane. I dunno. Suggestions are welcome.

We all still have our primal brain, it's learning to recognize when it kicks in and quieting it that's the problem. The above is all about you, and will follow you into all your R if you choose not to take responsibility for it and fix it.

Why are you like that? What do you think?

Hang in there, you can do this. You may not save your M but you can save you.