I have read the books an dget the theory but i have no idea how to do it. I love him so much and still feel so married in my heart. I feel like i was thrown out like trash and he is okay and i am broken.
He's not OK. He may be giving that impression outwardly, but he's more likely confused and in turmoil. The more you are needy and clingy the farther away you push him. The more you detach and give him space then the sooner he begins to heal and think things through. The key to detachment is not to do it for him, but to do it for yourself. You are obviously still very attached to him and that's what you need to break. When you pull back and start focusing on yourself then your own healing will begin. It is absolutely the most difficult thing you will do, but when you do it things DO get better.
