You sound confused. But that's OK as long as you dig a bit deeper to see where the confusion comes from.

I asked the question for yo to really think about whether things have changed sufficiently for the 2 of you to have the R you want.

Maybe you do want to just "date" him or be FWB. I've had that thought myself. I think cake-eating is fine as long as both are in agreement.

I think you want answers NOW and the reality is, these things take time to sort out.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss