btw- to add to this- I have an appt with Nurse Practitioner at IC on Monday to see about meds. I also just reread what I wrote and had an A ha moment. lol How ironic that I feel H is like my mother in many ways. I never seemed to connect it before. How dumb is that? I am just repeating my patterns. Staying stuck in the same old doesn't work b s. Hmmm. What now?