It is on his mind constantly and he TALKS about it to me like I am a good friend wanting to know the details of his move. (Should I get a long couch, HD-TV? Should I take all of my clothes now or just what I need for now....on & on!!!) I try to listen w/o judgement but inside I am upset he is SO focused on himself and BLIND to what he's doing to ME and OUR FAMILY!
I went through this with W as well. The thing is, the WAS is totally convinced that moving out is going to usher in a new era of incredible prosperity, unlimited happiness, abundant spare time and awesome new relationships for them. They just can't wait to get started, they're positively giddy with anticipation. Then move day comes and...
Wow this is a lot more work than I thought. I have to mow already? Where am I going to put all this crap? This place sure looked bigger with nothing in it. I've got to work tomorrow and can't find my stinking hair dryer, what box is that in? What the heck, I'm ALREADY getting bills in the mail? I hope W gets my laundry done soon, oh wait, I have to do that now don't I. When am I going to have time to unpack the rest of the boxes? Maybe I can just stack them against the wall for now. I've got the kids already? Dang, now I have to go grocery shopping, get them to do their homework, bathe, brush their teeth, go to bed, how am I going to have time for all this???
Reality check time! So don't let it bother you, if he's like my wife then the incredible thrill of moving will be short-lived indeed.
