AT you never will turn off those thoughts. You loved your wife. There is no shame in that. But you still cannot control those thoughts. When someone is treating your poorly. Doing actions that they know hurts you.

Well....


You do not reward those actions.

What ends up happening is that.

1. You go on with your life. Knowing you made a few mistakes in a partner. So you make sure you do not repeat those mistakes.
2. You have a wife that comes back and works on her issues and you work on your issues. And together you work hard and make your marriage work.
3. You have a wife that comes back and you work on your issues and in a few years. Your in the same place.

Options 1 and 2

Plan for option 1

For they come into play for option 2

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unconditional love is awesome!