ANGER THREAD - How do YOU deal with it???

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I think since I started it, I can volunteer my own experience with it...

For those here who know my story, anger has been a HUGE issue in my life and one of the main reasons for the demise of my marriage.

I know that I hide my hurt and fears behind a facade of anger to hide my vulnerability, since that was a no, no in my family while growing up.

I am still struggling with anger and I know it will be something to work on until I die. I have worked on identifying some of the big triggers that cause it, at least in my R with my H.

I have also realized that lack of sleep and exercise really do me in and that I need to be more disciplined about them if I am to be more even-keeled about my emotions.

Yet I still have many challenges and one of them is the ability to walk away when I am already upset. Meaning, it's hard for me to just stop when I am in the middle of an argument with my H and my emotions are getting the best of me. I realize I am angry (and mostly hurt) and I let my emotions run the show.

It's hard to just walk away when I feel someone is hurting me or being unfair to me. How do I get my brain to say: "hey, you are out of control here, you are saying things you will regret later, you are not being fair, just calm down and walk away to cool off."