LoisB,

Thankyou for your reply.

This crap is so unbelievable,hurtful, devastating and any other word you'd like to add on.

H comes to see the kids twice a week but the last few times he wont even come to the house he asks our S to meet him with the younger two kids somewhere...I think he does this because he doesn't want OW to know he came to HIS home.

We have known the OW for 9 years, shes a disgusting human being and we ALWAYS felt this way. She also takes government assistance as a handout not a hand up and this also ticked H off about people who did this.

I truly think he has hate for me which is so hard because he has always been so protective of me. I have no family in this country I came to America from Scotland when I was 19 for him so I feel so abandoned by him for everything including finishing raising our 3 kids.
Have a good night smile

p.s I don't know how this forum thing works but it seems to take awhile for my posts to show up, I started this thread on oct 26th and it didn't post till nov 1st...is this normal?


M 41 H 43
M 22
S 18 S 14 D 11
Affair discovered 1/12
He filed 2/12
OW#2 7/12 she lives next door.
D pending