Mixed Signals From Walk-Away-Husband

[littleGTO]

FierceHope,
As I was reading your posts I felt like I was reading a lot of the things I've written or felt.

My sitch is very similar to yours in SOME ways--at least emotionally.

I too love his HUGS and wonder about initiation of ANY physical contact. It always makes ME feel better when he initiates contact but really MAGNIFIES the rejection I feel when my contact is not reciprocated.

My H and I have always been friends too & he gave me the "I always want to remain friends w you no matter what happens" speech. I too answered that I did not think I could be friends w him if decided to end our M.

Yet that is what we seem to be these days--at least on the days he's willing to open to me and talk. Other days he is more of a stranger.

Everyone keeps telling me to detach and GAL. We only have control over ourselves. It is very hard to stop obsessing about your M sitch (I still am) but I realize that this may just be the very answer I need for my H to start taking NOTICE.

SInce your H first enjoyed pursuing you maybe he would enjoy the pursuit again (but first you need to be far less available to him)!