"It's not always easy to see who is and who isn't emotionally unavailable. At first glance, many men appear to be passionate men filled with solid career goals and have an impressive track record. They shower you with attention and you think you've finally found Mr. Right, but he could be Mr. Wrong if he allows you to rescue him from responsibility.
Mr. Wrong relates to you in a way that places all responsibility on your shoulders. You will drive the relationship, because he isn't able to provide input from his detached position. Unavailable means he isn't there for you when the conflicts and issues arise in the relationship. You rescue him by being ultra responsible for the relationship to continue or fail."
Now I know there are 2 sides to everything and I'm not denying my role in the R but when you tend to be an overachiever this just kicks that into gear and the Control Monster is born.
Add to the list, avoid someone who "lets" you make all the decisions.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
