I'm not going to to tell you that you shouldn't have had that talk with her. Sometimes you need to remind them that you're still fighting for the marriage.
I got a knot in my throat with your surprise bday at work. That's so so nice, thoughtful and caring. You're so fortunate to have a kind workplace. That's a biggy since most people are general stressed and/or unappreciated. Relish in that moment ;-)
also, it's only been a few mos since your sitch started. Patience, give it more time. Remember Admiral Stockdale.
HAPPY BDAY!!!! Please please do me a favor! Go have a drink with your friends. I would LOVE to do something like that but with 2 little kids and nursing it's not as easy for me to do.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017