After the conversation my H cried and said "nobody who says they love me or is part of my family can support me for who I am and my decisions, unless I make the "right decisions". Meaning that he wants someone to tell him that what he is doing is okay & that as long as he is happy then that's the most important thing.
Please, won't someone queue the violins, LOL! Oh poor H! The world just doesn't understand! Why don't they understand? Well it's nice that someone gave him a truth dart, probably won't wake him up but I'm so sick and tired of all the enablers out there. My W's friends all tell her "well you need to search your heart and do what's right for you." Really? Personally I would crawl through broken glass for my W and kids long before I would "do what's right for me". But we live in a selfish world filled with selfish people enabling each other's selfish behavior. And those who hold a mirror up to them are considered bullies.
