Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
Her mind has her convinced that she is willing to lose you.

Think about how you feel in the early stages of a R... the heart flutters, you're googly eyed... no one else matters. Also Google the word "limerence".

Tell me why I think that the above paragraph may be relevant to the post of yours that I am responding to...


I'm not quite clear on what you are asking or which paragraph that you are referring to. I read the wiki on limerence. That certainly sounds like my situation. I get that she is interested in OM because it is new and fresh. I also know that eventually that will wear off. Lastly I realize that I'm not sure I can still be here for her as more time passes and she continues to pursue him. She definitely had the need for reciprocity too. Her folks are divorced, father cheated on the mother. She always told me she hated him for that and hated the OW in her parents marriage for breaking them up. Which is yet another thing on a long list of things that don't make sense to me.


Me - 32
Wife - 31
No kids
Married - 3
Together - 6
"I need space" - July 2012
Bomb/Presence of OM - August 2012
Separation - September 2012