good morning A-Gal - hope you are feeling better today - I am not going to use that 2x4 that livin used but I agree with her - Giving him space will create an emotional vaccuum that will pull him in. pursuing creates and emotional preasure that will push him away. Might put a photo of him next to the keyboard of your computer with a small note - "will sending him this email push him away or pull him closer?" as a reminder.
I found it very diffucult to not call C or IM her after the bomb and when she called I made sure there was nothing but positive frendly upbeat conversation. That way she has learned that there will be no presure on her if she calls or IMs and that it will be an uplifting contact. as a result she has started calling and IMing more and more. I have not innitiated any R talks and try to stay away from them as much as possible but when we do I try to validate her feelings and what ever she said I did I would respond with "you know, You are right." or something like that. they can not argue with you if you agree with everything they say. I figure that years from now when my M is back rock solid we can talk about it (but then if it is then rock solid, there would be no need to talk about our past R)
I like your goals for today and early tomorrow - keep busy and have fun. When he comes tomorrow night, you know what he likes about you. Well, you have a fun first date with your new boyfriend.
