Good day today so far. Wife and I were buying new car before the ILYBINILWY speech. We have still gone ahead an purchased the car. Hopefully that means something!
It means you needed another car. Probably even more so if you split up!
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Still lots of talking and willingness to communicate. She is doing a lot of the initiation of the communication including conversation, BBM messaging, etc.
In some ways its a very strange feeling because our relationship is probably better in a lot of ways than it has been in a while. If I keep going then I have confidence that we can get through this.
She hasnt mentioned seperation in 4 days now. She also made quick reference to our relationship in a conversation earlier where she only said that 'we were not doing so well right now'. That appears to be progress to me!!!!
Would others see it this way? Im curious to know if this is all fairly typical?
Yes, I see these things as positives too. Just don't allow yourself to get too excited. You have a long ways to go and there's bound to be some negatives coming your way, which will leave you crashing hard if you get your hopes up to much. Your goal here is to level out the emotional roller coaster ride you are now on. Besides, real progress is tracked in weeks or months, not days.
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Also, even though you know the wife is seeing you change before her eyes, I am guessing its fairly normal for her to be dismissive at this point? Its like no matter what you do, she almost has some negative spin on it? Im sure she is very sceptical of the 'new me' at this point? Its only been 3 weeks. Need to be the honey badger here for sure!
She's thinking "Too little, Too late". Mine told me that her and her girlfriend think it's funny how the husbands finally "get it" once the wife threatens to leave. So yeah, to them it's not real, we're only doing it because we're scared! (and to be honest we are) Don't let this discourage you, just stay on course, it sounds like you're doing fine.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
