At the moment I have no reason to suspect an affair, but many a person has been fooled into belieiving that to be the case. My take on it though is this - if she is having an affair what difference does it make to my situation? None really. I can only work on myself and hope that she sees 'me' her husband and father of her children as her best option in the long term. Anyway, Im jumping way ahead here......
Good day today so far. Wife and I were buying new car before the ILYBINILWY speech. We have still gone ahead an purchased the car. Hopefully that means something!
Still lots of talking and willingness to communicate. She is doing a lot of the initiation of the communication including conversation, BBM messaging, etc.
In some ways its a very strange feeling because our relationship is probably better in a lot of ways than it has been in a while. If I keep going then I have confidence that we can get through this.
She hasnt mentioned seperation in 4 days now. She also made quick reference to our relationship in a conversation earlier where she only said that 'we were not doing so well right now'. That appears to be progress to me!!!!
Would others see it this way? Im curious to know if this is all fairly typical?
Also, even though you know the wife is seeing you change before her eyes, I am guessing its fairly normal for her to be dismissive at this point? Its like no matter what you do, she almost has some negative spin on it? Im sure she is very sceptical of the 'new me' at this point? Its only been 3 weeks. Need to be the honey badger here for sure!
I can live without the physical side of things for as long as it takes. I just want to get our emotional connection back first. The rest should follow that with some hard work and luck.
I refuse to let this get me down! Its hard but I am fighting!
