Soul, I'm not really DB'g in the true sense. I know a TON of things that I could do to make H happy. The problem is that he seems incapable or indifferent to doing what makes me happy. Instead, I'm trying to build healthy boundaries, to create an environment where we're operating on a level playing field. H seems to be fighting really hard to keep things as they were.
Sadly, in order to avoid arguments with him, I'm barely even speaking with him. For example, he was considering selling his car and asked what I thought. I told him I didn't think he should sell it. I wouldn't go into my reasons, just that. Well he sold it anyway on Sunday. Last night, he wanted to talk to me about another car he found and was considering buying. I wouldn't even give him my opinion. I feel like he's going to do what he wants to do anyway, so why bother to offer my opinion? I feel like he only asks my opinion so he has something to work against.
