Sorry I wasn't there to celebrate with you when you had the upturn, and thanks for visiting my thread.
Reading through your last post, I got the strong impression that you are just plain TRYING TOO HARD! You are all over him, trying to please him etc. You need to keep your strategies a little closer to your chest, just DO what you plan, don't tell him in so many WORDS what you plan.
For instance, when he arrives home, you could say you have something ready in the oven for him to eat, if he wants, but make it sound like it wouldn't be a big deal if he wasn't hungry. You could ask him if there was something he'd like to have or do, and if he anwers no, just leave it at that, Do NOT pursue him, asking him over and over again what he wants. Oh yes, make sure you look nice .
I have had the same problem at home with me yelling at D over homework and other issues. It always feels to me that the responsibility for making sure that D does what she ought to, or the dicipline issues, fall on my shoulders, and then I get no back up when things get difficult. But the truth is, constant yelling is NOT the answer, whether our Hs minds this or not. So that's an area that definitely needs working on.
DO NOT ask him to ring you. If you have to ask, it isn't worth it anyway. Make yourself more attractive so that he WANTS to ring you! You have it there in you, that's why he is married to you!
Sorry to sound like a warped record, but it really seems to me that you need to BACK OFF. Not in a sullen way, just in a pleasant way. Show H when he returns that you have a life too, by going out with your friend too. Don't hang on his every word or look. DON'T give him a stick to beat you with!
I'll be rooting for you on Tuesday!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
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