Update: After taking care of H while he was sick, he couldn't wait to get better and get out the weekend. As soon as his health improved, he started talking about how depressed he was and how he needed to go drink and hang out at his sisters. Needless to say, his hanging out turned into not coming home until the next day and when he did come home he acted all bummed out and sad.
Monday o H: Acting pitiful/remorseful o Me: Non-responsive. Acting as if nothing is wrong. Prayed • Tuesday Night H: Checked my phone records and questioned a call from male friend (who was wishing me happy birthday last week) Me: Advised BDay wish H: Acted as if he was angry. Took his wedding band off and slept on the couch Me: Non-responsive. Acting as if nothing is wrong (was restless though. Did not sleep well. Curious why he would do these things that obviously hurt me) Prayed Wednesday Morning H: Still on couch Me:No reaction. Got dressed. Prayed. Told him to have a good day and left for work. H: Texted me this morning asking if I removed his ring from the dresser Me: No response to text H: Called my cell Me: No Response H: Called the office twice. I answered the second time. Me: Calm. Told him I did not look for the ring ( I have it and will keep it) H: He’s looking for his ring (WTF) Me: Sent H the following text msg: Taking your ring off made me think last night. You act as if you are happy when you are away from me but act sad or angry when you are home with me. I don't want us to be together if I make you so unhappy. I need love, respect, fun and stability in my life. I want the same for you. It takes two people working together to make a marriage work. I feel like I am the only person trying to save our marriage and I don't want to do this alone anymore. H: No response via text regarding my message but last night I noticed a change in his demeanor. He was more upbeat. Talked alot about the positives of his job and things that he wants to improve around our home and some things he wants to do for me. This was better than the sad faces and constant complaining that brings me down. Later on he sent me a few texts from the house with pictures of me and captions of how he like them. Then he sent me a picture of him and asked me if I like it.
No ML this week as I have backed off from that because of H's late night outings but H did put his arms around me this morning before I got up for work.
I do not know what impact my msg will be but I am so tired of being disrespected in my home. Late nights and constant complaining keeps my spirits low. Keeps me depressed. If does not want our marriage then he should leave not keep me in Purgatory.
