So, am I doing the right thing at this point? The last time I saw him was a little over three weeks ago. He left the country. The last time I emailed him was about two weeks ago. I was upset with how he was making my YD feel. She was so upset and resentful towards him because of a missed senior year moment (actually a whole season).
. In the email I said maybe there would come a day that he would come back from wherever and whoever he is. I said hopefully we'll still be here, we can only endure so much. I did tell him if he was in love with someone else, to just say it so I could move on with my life. I also told him there is forgiveness but, I didn't think it would extended forever. I told him I know we all ALL are in pain and I wish he wanted to heal with us.
If any of the is wrong, too late because its already out there. He never emailed me back. He wasn't emailing me anyway. He did email YD and asked her how her last performance went and how is she. This performance is one that he flew home for the weekend last year to see. This was her last one ever! She was so mad and disappointed that she never emailed him back.
Now there is no communication between the girls and him. None between me and him either. Should I continue to stay silent? I just don't know what I should be doing.
Any advice? I have read DR. Other books are being delivered Sat.
There are no mistakes really you're in a lot of pain and turmoil - unfortuantely REASON has no place in the MLCers mind - so anything you do or say that trys to move them out of there space will just drive their heels deeper into the mud so to speak.
The best advice is to treat him like he is a business associate – someone you know at work and don’t feel strongly about one way or the other. As hard as it is try to show no emotion or feeling – I am TERRIBLE at this – I miss my wife’s communication and companionship terrible – she has been away for 3 weeks and is coming home tomorrow – it will be a challenge for me to have to see her again – I think you’re kinda lucky he is not around after almost 3 weeks I think it’s easier if they are out of your face.
Be strong – one of the greatest things I have heard here is – YOU ARE THE PRIZE – don’t forget it – they wouldn’t have married you if you weren’t. They are in a place where they are BLAMING all there lives misery on you – don’t accept that it is true – everyone in a marriage makes a mistakes – understand that – bottom line is he wants to run and play now – so let him if you want to save your marriage the more you let him go the better right now.
This isn’t your fault – it isn’t his fault – just pray and take care of yourself and kids. They will see what is going on and they will have there own relationship with him – don’t lie to them but don’t make him out to be a monster either they will know the truth he can’t hide that from them.
Breathe, eat and try doing things that are fun – this is one hell of a ride and it doesn’t go fast !!!
Great to have you here – and know you are gonna be ok no matter what happens !!!
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
