My translation -- not sure if this was covered but words of affirmation definitely impact her!! Keep it up! Just don't rush and keep doing your thing!! Sorry if I am butting in.
Afa So pleased to hear OM is off. Still a long way to go, I know, but was glad to read that was what the catastrophic event was. Tread lightly w shield in hand
Thank you all for the translation. That's what I thought, but wanted more objective opinions to male sure obese correct. MKB, you're more than welcome to offer your insight / advice anytime. I appreciate it. I've thought her LLs were Touch and Quality Time, maybe your more right than I have been. I read the book years ago, and even then she didn't take too much interest in the quiz.
Journaling... Past couple days have been fair. I've continuing on my path. Doing more of the "new" same. W has of course been a reported "emotional mess". I saw her frustrated the other night on her phone and iPad, but didn't give attention. Most likely, contact with OM (to be expected right?). She's shared she's been crying still several times a day / throughout the night. I've tried to be there from a distance though. We all went trick or treating last might and had a good time. We were walking in a subdivision where we had considered moving to earlier. W made several comments about how it would be nice forbid to live there, etc. SIL tagged us as being together on FB. Truthful, yet passive aggressive move by her (as she knows OM would see it / SIL wants us to work out). I can only control me right? . SIL did mention that W said she had to work up the courage to break up with OM (maybe liquid courage), that she wants to work on things with me, but not to be rushed. So I've had to make my shield heavier to slow me down ad anger crept in late last night. Currently a little better.
a few more notes... W made the "emotional mess" comment again last night before she went upstairs, in part due to the fact that she has another medical dr. appt today due swollen neck glands or something like that. Anyways, I did encourage her to tell the dr. everything, medically speaking, maybe there's a bigger picture going on with her; and did ask if she had any luck with in contacting IC. She has been waiting for IC to call. I encouraged her to call.
This morning we were more than pleasant towards each other. She sent me a lengthy text, that included an invite to spend time with her and the kids doing Christmas related stuff this weekend, "if I don't have any plans." I do have some plans, which are cool. I discovered W.O.T.E. is playing near my area, and I wanted to go. I texted a friend, who fortunately does like their music and already had tickets, so I bought one and that's what I'm doing tomorrow night. Saturday so far is open for me. I replied, to the invite, "maybe...when are you going to do that," and wished her luck for the dr. appt.
Last comment for now. For all of you who have helped me and I hope continue to do so, "Thank You," I'll do my best to get to your threads sooner than later. 8)
The exchagnes have definitely positive. Yesterday before we all left to go trick or treating, she came to talk to me in the bedroom and laid down beside me. Now self control on not hugging / kissing her was tough, yet I did not make any overtures towards that.
As far as the my plans / her invite, well it's currently the same night, tomorrow. So I'll be doing my best to focus on having fun, enjoying music, and a pretty good friend's company. If by some chance, she chooses to change days, all the better. I have to admit I'm a bit torn, but realize the "counterintuitive" thing to do and follow through with my plans. Just sharing the thoughts / emotions. 8)
The IC isn't too weird. I say that because she was moving offices and needed to get her new one set up and said it would be a couple weeks.
I can definitely mention it to SIL, she is one of the few that follow my requests of backing off if they do more harm than good. 8)
Correct on the band. It's actually Gotye's song they are covering. They evidently do both covers and some originals. The coolest thing about their cover of that particular song is that there's like 5 or 7 members who all play 1 guitar and sing it. I don't care too much for the song itself. They do do a pretty good cover of Karma Police by Radiohead. 8)
Journaling... I'm feeeling a bit odd today. Is that I'm not as busy at work as usuasl (hence me being able to frequent here 8) ), or is that I have plans I was hopeful to do and now have to turn down an invite from the W (and kids). ??? It's not, but it's not a good. Maybe one of those uncomfortable growing moments.
