That is what we call a little emotional manipulation.

Next time follow through on your boundary.

If she texts OM or communicates with him in your presence.

Get up and leave. State why your leaving and leave.

If it is when you and S have time together. You tell her to leave and state why.

If she says she will stop. You still go through with it. Enforce the boundary.

She will then have the choice to apologize. She will then have the choice to respect your boundary.

Then the next time your together observer. And if she breaks it you then follow through the same statement and action.

Then you can then add a new boundary.

That you will no longer spend time with her period while the OM is in the picture.


She played you into a no win conversation. If you had enforced your boundary it would not have happened.

What are you giving ? You spending time with your cheating wife in a friendly civil manor. Your giving her money when you do not have to.

You gave at the first part of the marriage by explaining your work situation. She agreed to it.

Then she decided that was no longer good for her and went off and got OM.

So now your giving by trying to be in S's life and repair a broken marriage.

That is giving.


You gotta see these emotional manipulation games for what they are.

To deflect from her poor choices on to you and make it into what she says your poor choices are that excuses her current poor actions.


That is what that whole conversation was about.

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