Hi Tad, You asked me about my sitch regarding contact with Ex W. When she left (26th Jan 04) we had a bit of contact, but regarding only stuff on the surface.
They don’t like to be pursued, well it got to her that we could perhaps reconcile. Feck me!! Late June 04 a letter came to me from her lawyer saying, If you do not divorce Liz by way of her adultery, and we don’t hear from you in the next 6 weeks then she will start proceedings against you, siting unreasonable behaviour on your part!
Well Feck her I thought! She was on holiday in Corfu with (OM) Nic when I received the letter. When she got back, us as a family minus eldest D (because she had an important exam at college) confronted her outside the hotel where she worked. No joy.
I didn’t respond to her lawyer, but by the end of the year another letter came on the 31st Dec 04 (happy new Fecking year!) from yet another lawyer, this time she had started to proceed on grounds of my unreasonable behaviour. Well after the decree nisi was declared Feb 05 She dropped this Lawyer, then my lawyer kept chasing Liz and it took to the 20th Nov 06 to finally be divorced and on my terms. ( I prayed to God, And I said “my life Lord” or this deal £££££, which is it to be it’s up to You ) I got a brilliant deal, which her lawyer told her not to take! Thanks be to GOD!!!
The following is the only contact between us since early July 04:
Early Nov 05, she arranged to meet me, I got ambushed I knew my then pastors would be there because Liz arranged it thru them, But Nic was there I said “Liz you come outside on your own” she did, all it was about was her having more access to youngest D, I said only if Nic’s not around her, which more or less worked out.
Late June early July 06 she walked down our garden path to speak to me, I met her on the door step, It was only later that I found out why she came, She wanted youngest D to sometimes stay with her and Nic and his son and I was not to stop it. Jan 07 one of my D’s was on the phone to Liz, when Liz said “happy birthday” to me!
Late July 2012, Me and youngest D dropped Nic’s lawn mower off (at their house) which me and youngest repaired etc, youngest D said “dad did most of the work on it” I had my van engine still running D took the mower out thru the back doors. I’m looking in the rear view mirror and hoping for a quick get away when Liz said “Thank you” to me.
So I am really well and truly detached from her.
Love Delboy
P.S It’s still shocking for me to see her, as she now is, it’s fecking unbelievable! That’s what it is.
