Hey,

This caught my eye:

it is a website that people use to talk about each other and it seems to me to harrass each other...as it let me know my info was in there...but won't give me any info without me paying for it...

I'm not sure if I'm reading you wrong or not...but this happened to me too. I did a little research and found this:

http://www.snopes.com/computer/internet/wordofmouth.asp

It basically says that this is a scam set up to get people to pay $20.00 to find out what is being said about them...and then when they pay, they are told that the information has been lost.

I hope this helps!

Sending you warm hugs.

PIB