When your friends tell you the opposite of DB, then tune them out or ask them to refrain from these talks. It can be so discouraging.
I have absolutely no one, except all you, that support my efforts. Everyone, EVERYONE! has given me their 2cents. But this is my fault because in the beginning I would ask EVERYONE for their advice. So they continued giving me advice even when I didn't ask for it.
Now I don't discuss any of my sitch with them and if they do I say, ok gotta go. and hang up or walk away. This has isolated me but I have a lot more serenity.
Also, about the dating. How would you like it if your W was dating while she was trying to fight for your M? Sounds weird don't you think?
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017