Thanks for the comments and encouragment. It is comforting to have a place to share this with other people. A couple of weeks ago when my W was very low and depressed I suggested she go stay at my moms while she was away travelling. Well she came home tonight but is pretty down about not being able to find a job and not being able to move. I just listened and let her get it off her chest. She asked me what things were going to look like now that she is back. I suggested that it was up to her and that we knew that her stay at my mom's was only temporary. All I can do is be patience and loving. I must say that Ii was kinda of nice not to have the negative energy in the house while she was away.
I am going to reread the 180's after your suggestiand take a look at the MLC form.
Thanks again


me-49
w-40
s-8
living seperately but same house since Jun 2012