You asked if her wanting to come by the house every evening to see the kids was a good sign. I'm just saying that it's not a sign of anything, other than cake eating. She's taking the best of both worlds.

Maybe getting soft is a 180 for you, but it seems to me that you need to call some of these shots. You give all the power to her and you act as if you're helpless. Women are not attracted to helpless men. And.....she needs to see you first as a man. She needs to respect you first as a man.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!