To the best of my knowledge, no. Her ex that she was seeing broke it off with her (I think he felt somewhat guilty, having been cheated on by his ex-wife). The date with the other guy was called off, and she stopped talking to him after she was found out. As far as I know, there is nobody else in the picture.
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
Do not have sex with her when she is having sex with other men.
Didn't know she was at the time. I only found out for sure that there was adultery going on after the affairs had been ended.
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
Get to a doctor and get checked out. Full tests. Do not be stupid here. This is your health your playing with.
Already got the referral, just need to get time to go to the lab to get the tests done.
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
Get to a lawyer for a free consultation after you go to your province's website for divorce and read up on your rights as a father and as a man. Then go ask questions. What to do and what not to do.
Will do. Probably should've done this months ago. I've been so focused on trying to prevent D that I didn't think to protect myself in the case that things go South. I'll try to make an appointment tomorrow.
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
DO NOT MOVE OUT. DO NOT LEAVE THE BEDROOM.
I won't. I made this clear to her a long time ago.
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
She is free to leave the marital bed is she chooses but you stay where you are.
So far I have resisted her attempts to leave the marital bed. Last time she asked was probably 3 weeks ago or so (well before I picked up DB). Should I bring it up and suggest that she leave the bed, or should I just not resist if she brings it up again?
Originally Posted By: chatterbug
If you want to move this forward quickly and skip a few months of limbo then detatch and work on your boundaries. Then live by them. Since she brought crisis to the family. You being a marriage warrior and attacking the affair and the waywardness with a tough love approach is a way to place the crisis where it truly belongs. On her lap.
Any advice on how to detach? Every time I think it might be time to move on, my stomach ties in knots and I end up feeling really needy, which doesn't improve the whole situation.
Do you mean set boundaries for myself, or for her? Given that she currently says she wants a divorce, I can't exactly tell her "don't do this or its over", can I? Should setting boundaries be saved for if/when she actually decides she wants to stay in the marriage?
