For me: read divorce remedy every day. Gone back to playing guitar in church, which I quit for several weeks when this happened.
Other criticisms: yes working on those. My list so far
[list] [*]Sarcasm [*]Ignoring or degrading her advice/opinions [*]Talking downtown her [*]Criticizing how she handles things [*]Raising voice [*]Being cross to her in public [*]Lecturing tone [*]Ignoring needs [*]Unsympathetic when she's tired, sick, upset, frustrated [*]Always having to be right, or not admitting when I'm wrong [*]Not supporting her interests [*]Taking her for granted
I came up with this list after listening to her at our 1st and only counseling session. Used her generalizations to analyze my past behavior, sent h er a letter repenting.
One of her statements "You let me work all those extra hours for years while business was failing and didn't do anything. Who does that?"
I accept all of them because, shamefully, they are true. Not intentionally, but out of focusing on my own frustrations I have ignored her needs.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
