Originally Posted By: Beardown
What do you think I should do? Email her the letter expressing my boundaries or try memorizing it and tell her face to face?


Ideally, you want to tell her face to face. Starsky would definitely advocate that.

I gave the speech multiple times... face to face, over the phone, text, email... LOL I don't think that the mode of communication matters all that much.

The important thing is that you are able to say what you need to say without interruption, and without becoming emotional.

If a letter is going to allow you to do that, then I'd say do that.

Accept the invite for tonight. IMO. Give her one more opportunity to see what she is giving up.


M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce