I believe this to be the case with me as well. Not actual interest from her but concern for how I am after what she has done. Which frustrates me. If you care that much about someone and worry about how they are feeling, and know that you were in love at some point, and have admitted, "You know even when I wasn't happy with you, you were still really good to me." What else is there to rekindle a loving marriage??? I mean I get it, sometimes people are just done. Sometimes they have made up their mind. It just still doesn't make sense to me because I would never do that. I would never just give up without trying.
I KNOW, RIGHT??? It's so frustrating!! W said she was worried about me, wanted me to be happy, didn't want to hurt me. It's like stabbing someone with a knife and telling them you hope it doesn't hurt, LOL! And on top of that, the MC asked W if she respected me. "Oh yes, definitely." Well do you love him? "Yes, I do." What about sex, was he selfish about it? "No, I really enjoyed the sex! I wouldn't mind continuing to have sex, I just don't want him to get the wrong idea." Counselor- "OK, so you respect him, love him and enjoy the sex, is that right?" "Yes." "Well in psychology, we call that the makings of a great relationship!!" But then every time the MC would ask W about the future the response was always exactly the same- "I just don't want to try." It just boggles the mind.
I read about all these women in sexless marriages, or violent marriages, or marriages involving alcoholism, drug abuse, infidelity, mental problems, etc. etc. And these poor women are trying desperately to hold things together. And here's my W with a loving husband, 3 darned near perfect children, financial security, a great job, beautiful home, freedom to do what she wants, no debt, good friends, etc. etc. and she just doesn't "want to try".
