Still together but trying to save this

[PeteWyo]

My W behaved similar to that early on after BD, but it was driven out of guilt. She was trying to do a temperature check on me not because she had any interest in reconciling, but because she was concerned about what she had done to me.

I believe this to be the case with me as well. Not actual interest from her but concern for how I am after what she has done. Which frustrates me. If you care that much about someone and worry about how they are feeling, and know that you were in love at some point, and have admitted, "You know even when I wasn't happy with you, you were still really good to me." What else is there to rekindle a loving marriage??? I mean I get it, sometimes people are just done. Sometimes they have made up their mind. It just still doesn't make sense to me because I would never do that. I would never just give up without trying.